Couples & Families

Couples & Families

Couples

The way we define coupledom is ever transforming. I honor all forms of relationships, within, pressing against, and outside of the monogamous and heteronormative narrative. I don’t care who you’re doing or where you’re doing it. My role is not to judge or change your way of relating to the person beside you. My role is to honor the unique alchemy of your relationship, and provide a space where you may become clearer in what you desire from it. I am an upfront therapist, who is nurturing, but will also intervene and challenge in a session if that is what I feel is needed.

We will explore your relationship from a triadic lens, because there are really 3 relationships taking place. First is the relationship each of you have with yourself as one. Then there are the two of you as 1, symbolizing a kind of union that lives as a sacred connection in itself. Ideally, all 3 connections would be honored for harmony to exist (and we can expand this idea with polyamorous couples with more than two partners in the relationship). Sacrificing your relationship to yourself or sacrificing your relationship to your significant other(s) is where things can feel stuck or disconnected. We might explore whether you want your relationship to continue in its current form, or find a harmonious way of parting ways or redefining the nature of your relationship to one another. This is up to you.

Families

Ram Das said “If you think you’re enlightened, try spending a week with your family.” This isn’t to say that families are inherently toxic. Instead, it says that we become more triggered, and tend to revert to the more unconscious and child-like version of ourselves in their presence. Having a space where we can explore your family relational dynamic without feeling swallowed by it is important.