Couples & Families

Couples & Families

Couples

The way we define coupledom is ever transforming. I honor all forms of relationships, within, pressing against, and outside of the monogamous and heteronormative narrative. I don’t care who you’re doing or where you’re doing it. My role is not to judge or change your way of relating to the person beside you. My role is to honor the unique alchemy of your relationship, and provide a space where you may become clearer in what you desire from it. I am an upfront therapist, who is nurturing, but will also intervene and challenge in a session if that is what I feel is needed.

Together We Can Explore:

 
  • What each of you want from the relationship
  • Find common goals desired
  • Work on effective and meaningful ways of communicating
  • Create a safe space to discuss vulnerable, intimate, and difficult feelings
  • Explore what your relationship represents
  • Understand what form you want your current relationship to exist in

Together We Can Explore:

 
  • What each of you want from the relationship
  • Find common goals desired
  • Work on effective and meaningful ways of communicating
  • Create a safe space to discuss vulnerable, intimate, and difficult feelings
  • Explore what your relationship represents
  • Understand what form you want your current relationship to exist in

We will explore your relationship from a triadic lens, because there are really 3 relationships taking place. First is the relationship each of you have with yourself as one. Then there are the two of you as 1, symbolizing a kind of union that lives as a sacred connection in itself. Ideally, all 3 connections would be honored for harmony to exist (and we can expand this idea with polyamorous couples with more than two partners in the relationship). Sacrificing your relationship to yourself or sacrificing your relationship to your significant other(s) is where things can feel stuck or disconnected. We might explore whether you want your relationship to continue in its current form, or find a harmonious way of parting ways or redefining the nature of your relationship to one another. This is up to you.

Families

Ram Das said “If you think you’re enlightened, try spending a week with your family.” This isn’t to say that families are inherently toxic. Instead, it says that we become more triggered, and tend to revert to the more unconscious and child-like version of ourselves in their presence. Having a space where we can explore your family relational dynamic without feeling swallowed by it is important.

Together We Can Explore:

 
  • What is desired and in the best interest of the family as a whole
  • What is being unexpressed, resulting in unclear and tense moments relationally
  • If different family members have different goals, how are these supported, and how do they conflict with the families symbolic and cultural understanding of itself
  • How does the family communicate and speak with each other
  • How does each member of the family assume responsibility
  • A space to process unmet and repressed feelings
  • Does the family have an “identified patient?”(someone who the family unconsciously decides to focus on “helping or fixing,”
  • How does intergenerational trauma play a role in the family dynamic
  • How are bids for attention communicated within the family

Together We Can Explore:

 
  • What is desired and in the best interest of the family as a whole
  • What is being unexpressed, resulting in unclear and tense moments relationally
  • If different family members have different goals, how are these supported, and how do they conflict with the families symbolic and cultural understanding of itself
  • How does the family communicate and speak with each other
  • How does each member of the family assume responsibility
  • A space to process unmet and repressed feelings
  • Does the family have an “identified patient?”(someone who the family unconsciously decides to focus on “helping or fixing,”
  • How does intergenerational trauma play a role in the family dynamic
  • How are bids for attention communicated within the family

Message Saman Khazani, LMFT

Send me a message and I will get back to you shortly.

Message Saman Khazani, LMFT

Send me a message and I will get back to you shortly.

Message Saman Khazani, LMFT

Send me a message and I will get back to you shortly.

Saman Khazani

Marriage and Family Therapist

Practicing Psychotherapy With Humans of All Ages

License Number: MFC 104017

Saman Khazani

Marriage and Family Therapist

Practicing Psychotherapy With Humans of All Ages

License Number: MFC 104017

© 2020 Saman Khazani. All Rights Reserved.

Call Now Button818.207.4443